The Quranic text deals with everything related to women in terms of the of rights
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ {O you who have believed,}: It addresses those who enter into a contract of faith with Allah (swt).
لاَ يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُواْ النِّسَاء كَرْهًا {it is not lawful for you to inherit women by compulsion}: It was accustomed that when a person dies, his guardian or his son inherits the money and inherits the wife of the deceased, so he takes her and makes her permissible for him or marries her and takes her dowry. Hence, the woman was as a good, for this Allah (swt) says in this verse:
وَلاَ تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُواْ بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ {And do not make difficulties for them in order to take [back] part of what you gave them}: Making difficulties refers to the prohibition of the woman’s marriage. Verily, a woman in Islam, if her husband dies, she enters into the waiting period, and when this period ends, she has the right to marry. However, they were preventing her from getting married, so Allah (swt) forbade that except in one case, which is the clear immorality.
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ{And live with them in kindness}: What a great and wonderful words about the wife are these, for the relationship between a man and a woman is not built only on love.
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ {And live with them in kindness}: Not (in love), the love between a man and a woman may not remain years after marriage, when this woman gets tired, gets old, gives birth and breastfeeds, during the marital life there must happens some disagreements, so the relationship between them should be with kindness not with love only, affection is pleasing to yourself, as by kindness, you please others. The Prophet (saws) said:
“A believer must not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another”.[1]
How great is this expression! A woman is not only a tool for physical pleasure, but she is a life partner. If she is not perfect in a side, there are many perfect sides in her character. However, the relationship between a man and a woman is not related to one side, which is the state of the sexual relationship. Rather, this relationship represents an integrated and continuous life with all its pains, hopes, dreams, children education, living and participation in everything related to the concerns, affairs and anxieties of life, children, family building and work. Hence, we cannot make a woman’s share of life is the pleasure only, and the rights are not built on love, but rather are built on values.
The rights of a wife are among the most important duties of a man. A man said to al-Hasan (may Allah be pleased with him): Many men proposed to my daughter, so who would I marry her? He said:
“Whoever fears Allah, if he loves her, he will honor her, and if he hates her, he will not wrong her”
Because the Prophet (saws) said:
“A believer must not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another”.
فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا {For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good}: When hatred appears as a result of the monotony of life and disagreements, Allah (swt) does not ask the man to divorce her, but says:
فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا{For if you dislike them – perhaps you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good}.
[1] Sahih Muslim, Chapter of Infants, Section of the instructions about women, Hadith No. 1469.