فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ {So by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them}: This is a declarative sentence, which was revealed in Uhud, but the words of the Qur’an comprehend time and place. Sahl bin Saad said:
“I witnessed the Prophet (saws) when his canine tooth was broken, and his face was injured, and I know who washed the blood from his face, and who brought the water to him, and what did he put on his wound until the blood stopped, Fatima, the daughter of Muhammad (saws) washed the blood from his face, and Ali, (may Allah be pleased with him) brought the water to her when she was washing the blood off her father’s face, she burned a mat, so when it became ashes, she took some of that ashes and placed it on his face until the blood stopped. Then he (saws) said on that day:
“Allah’s Wrath has become severe on the people who harmed His Prophet”
Then he stayed an hour and then said:
“O Allah! Forgive my nation, for they have no knowledge.”[1]
So by mercy from Allah (swt) he (saws) was lenient with them in this very hard situation of Uhud, where the archers have disobeyed his order, and a third of the army has defected, despite that, he was asking forgiveness for them. This indicates that the Prophet (saws) is the kindest of people in heart, the softest of people in speech, and the best in dealing with people, he used to sit where the meeting ends, and he did not use to pulll his hand until the other person did, when he was shaking hands, and he did not accept anyone to kiss his hands. He (saws) said:
“Do not praise me as the Christians praised ‘Issa bin Maryam (pbuh). I am no more than the slave of Allah and His Messenger.”[2]
And when A man came to him (saws) and his voice trembled out of awe as he spoke to him (saws). The Prophet (saws) said to him:
“Be calm, for I am not a king. Verily, I am only the son of a woman who ate dried meat.”[3]
This is how the Prophet (saws) was. After all that, how does it come to describe Islam as a religion of terrorism, criminality, hatred, the abolition of the other, and murder, how can you be a Muslim when you are not following the guidance of the Messenger of Allah (swt) while He (swt) says to you:
لَقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ لِّمَن كَانَ يَرْجُو اللَّهَ وَالْيَوْمَ الْآخِرَ وَذَكَرَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا
{There has certainly been for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent pattern for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day and [who] remembers Allah often.}? (Al-Ahzaab: 21)
So our Prophet (saws) is an excellent pattern in everything, hence whoever wants to follow Islam he should look at the Sunnah of the Prophet (saws), his actions, sayings, guidance, behavior and biography.
وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لاَنفَضُّواْ مِنْ حَوْلِكَ {And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you}: Allah (swt) says to all people that they should be kind-hearted, just like the Prophet (saws).
فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ{So pardon them}: So pardon them for everything they did. To pardon, afore-mentioned, is to forget the matter completely, but it is not enough for you to pardon them, rather:
وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ {and ask forgiveness for them}: And if you do not ask forgiveness for them, Allah (swt) will not forgive them.
وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الأَمْرِ {and consult them in the matter.}: The Prophet (saws) consulted them, but they were wrong, because they advised the Prophet (saws) to go out to Uhud, while the Prophet (saws) wanted to stay in Medina, but he acted according to the counselling. This is a response to those who tend to say that the religion of Islam is an old- fashioned religion that ended at a specific time and a specific place.
Although they took a wrong decision, but the principle of Shura (Consultation) is a correct, and if a mistake occurs in it once, that does not mean we abolish it, so what is this great democracy that this verse establishes!
وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الأَمْرِ {and consult them in the matter.}: This is a basic principle, and it is applied according to time prescription, so we say that Islam is not a consistent program, but rather it is fixed values, the values of justice, piety and consultation, the values of goodness and love, these constant values has been established by Islam, they are as pillars at the level of politics.
فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللّهِ{And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah.}: If the matter was according to consultation, as happened in Uhud, and you decided and took the decision; meaning you took the reasons, then after that you have to rely on Allah (swt). Hence, one of the conditions of reliance on Allah (swt) is to adopt worldly means, taking into consideration that Allah is the One Who linked these reasons to the results, so He said:
فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللّهِ {And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah.}: Reliance is the work of the heart not the work of the body, so you cannot say: I have an exam, so I will rely on Allah (swt) to succeed without studying. This is not reliance on Allah (swt), the idea is to do your best, taking all the necessary precautions and rely on Allah (swt).
إِنَّ اللّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ {Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].}: Because the one who trusts in Allah (swt) lives in spiritual comfort which no one can reach at all, since he has taken the means, and relied on Allah, realizing that matters are in the hands of Allah (swt) alone. Consequently, after working and taking the reasons when Allah’s will is fulfilled, so he will be patient and satisfied with Allah’s decree.
[1] Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabeer: Chapter of the letter (S), sahl bin Sa’d As-Sa’idy, Hadith No. 5872.
[2] Sahih al-Bukhari: Chapter 16, Hadith No. 6442.
[3] Sunan Ibn Majah: Book of Food, Chapter of the Dried Meat, Hadith No. 3312.